Do you feel Insecure? Read This !

15th March 2022

In a year, it’s not sunny always. There are rains and cold stoo. Similarly, in our lives, we are not 100% all the time. At a young age, peer pressure makes many insecure. First dates always give jitters, we face situations that make us uncomfortable, and being a first-timer may demand answering questions to the situations we have never been in prior. Learning a new skill, noticing others do better than us gives us complexity. These things happen with everyone and are normal.
Insecurity arises from the failure to achieve a particular set target, recent situations in life. It lowers our self-esteem further resulting in a negative state of mind. It is all a matter of perspective though; your beliefs make your world. If you believe it’s a failure you stop, if you believe it’s an opportunity you learn something new.
Insecurities can be at the workplace, in personal life, or relationships. One may not feel that they are as good as their colleagues and face a major lack of confidence while presenting a presentation or a confused state of mind when being questioned. Personal insecurity can be caused due to multiple reasons, lack of confidence in the way you appear/ look, continuously judged as per societal norms for various factors thinking of how others think about you. These are unhealthy practices carried forward by toxic people. Relationship insecurities again come in various forms; thinking you do not deserve your partner, doubting your partner, trying to control their behavior, jealousy, and many more.
Having said all of it, the root cause of insecurity boils down to one common reason lack of confidence and self–esteem. There are ways in which you can mindfully practice bringing a change in mindset and gradually overcome it.

FOCUS ON SHIFTING YOUR PERSPECTIVE:
There are various feedbacks we receive for things we do. For example, you might be told multiple times that you are not good at communication skills. Instead of making it an excuse not to give presentations or meet personnel, try focusing on how you can make it better. Shift your focus from excuse to purpose.

BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST:
When learning something new or taking a risk, if you are prepared for the worst possibilities and consequences; there are two reasons for it: 1) failure hurts less when you are already prepared for it. 2) working on doing better becomes easy.

HAVE A GROWTH MINDSET:
Be a learner for life, don’t be stagnant and stuck. Learning and evolving is the key to transforming failure into opportunity. I have previously written a blog on Growth Mindset, request to refer to that..!
https://www.loveatfirstwrite.in/Growth_Mindset.html

INSTEAD OF LIMITING YOUR CHALLENGES, CHALLENGE YOUR LIMITS:
As a kid, we first learn numbers, then single-digit mathematical operations like addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division. As we grow we learn many other mathematical concepts. When you keep challenging yourself, the possibility of you setting the bar higher for yourself with each attempt is high.

PERFECTION IS A MYTH:
I am a person who believes there is always a scope to improve, nothing and no one is perfect. Also, everyone has a different definition and personal version of perfection. Just like it's termed mob at a riot, it is the same thing that sets atmosphere at a pub! Stop striving to be perfect!

THERE IS NO ESCAPE:
Address your feelings, emotions, and fears. Acknowledge, cry out if needed, work on it if needed, there is no escape. This is the last and mandatory thing you ought to do to overcome insecurities and thereby keep your self-esteem in place.