The Truth

20th April 2025

"What kind of environment do you have at home? Why does your son behave like this?", these were precisely the questions I was asked in a PTM in front of a dozen or more parents. It was embarrassing, but I kept calm.

What is the truth? Does anyone even care to go the extra mile and find the root cause? I understand they have a class of 40 to look after, but then they should think about the same number before they question any parent like that. Is that too much to expect?

Every child is different, their reactions to situations are different, and the environments they live in are different, how justifiable is it to expect each one of them to behave and react in the exact same way, a fixed protocol, THE GOOD one?



And then I noticed that this kind of behavior was only with female parents, viz mothers of kids. The father was told, "All good. Please sign here. If there is any note, I will share it in the school diary", 'I wish I were the father.'

The expectations from a mother make them feel too heavy. Their lives revolve around the kids, there is no personal life left as such after embracing motherhood. And then being reminded that they aren't enough in that domain is too much.

Communication is the key, but it has to be applied correctly. Being rude and mean does not bring a solution every time. Sometimes being polite, and talking about things in private works wonders too.

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